While saying yes can take us down some wonderful roads,there's also a ton of value in saying no. We're only given a certain amount of hours in our lives;do you really want to give yours away so easily?If you don't have to time to commit to a new project,complete a favor,or serve on another committee,it's a good idea to just say no.
你说要是答应句“好”那不多简单啊,而且听起来也舒服;说“不”呢也不是不可以,而且有其道理所在;如果朋友有求,但你又的的确确没什么时间,帮不上什么忙,那就拒绝得了;不过,人生在世,来去匆匆,你又是否真的愿意生硬地拒绝或者让你的那个“不”字来的那么陡,最终连短暂岁月中的知音也远离呢!
The problem comes when saying no will put you in an awkward situation. Maybe you feel bad turning down the invitation to a coworker's bridal shower or you're worried that saying no to your cubicle buddy will cost you opportunities down the line. What you need in your back pocket is a way to say no gracefully-and that's just what I've got for you today. Consider them “Get out of Jail Free” cards for grown-ups.
说的倒容易,这要是一说了“不”,不就令双方都尴尬了嘛!你想吧,同事结婚发来请柬,要是舍不得赶礼,想不去,这又觉得很不够意思;如果遇上是舍友结良缘邀请你,你拒绝的话,恐怕以后你结婚的时候对方也不会来了。所以我今天在这里要说的就是,遇到这种情况,你干脆就来上一句善意的谎言,委婉的推脱就得了。接触的事情多了,这种方法也就寻常了,而且也是轻松解围的好方法。
For requests in the workplace:
同事之间:
“I'm sorry,but I just have a lot of other responsibilities on my plate. I really can't give that project the attention it deserves.”
实在抱歉,我现在手头上还有很多事情需要处理,太忙了!不能够……真是太遗憾了!
“I love your ideas,and I know a few people who might be great matches for your project.”
你的想法很不错,我很欣赏,但我现在可能暂时没法加入,不过我知道某某兴许比较适合做……
“You know,this isn't really my area of expertise, but I know a few great resources. Let me write them down for you.”
这方面我还真不在行,要不这样,我知道一些资料可能会对你有帮助,我帮你写下来,你可以去查一下。
“I'd love to help,but I'm on a strict deadline for the next few days. Let me know if there's any way I can help another time.”
我真的很想帮您,但我现在的活必须得在这两天搞定;您看过了这两天再弄你的事行不行?
“I'd love to come to your [creepy after-hours direct marketing] party, but I'm babysitting for a friend that evening.” (I highly recommend brainstorming a few truthful excuses as to why you wouldn't be able to go: make plans to call your mom,to catch up with an old friend,or to finally do whatever task it is that you've been putting off.)
我太想去了(可能你事后想起来会觉得说的假惺惺的),但我那天晚上得替朋友带孩子。(最好找的借口不是谎话,一定要扯的很圆才行;比如说计划给老妈子打电话啊、跟老朋友见面啊,或者就讲本来你准备要推迟做的事,然后说要在那天做。)
“I'm sorry,but as a general rule I don't participate in [insert activity or favor here]. If there's another way I can help,let me know.”
抱歉!一般情况下我都不去/不做XXX的。你看如果是有其他需要帮助的,可以找我。